OK, so to all my single people out there who think they are ready to be in a relationship, what is really going on? Online dating sites say that 80% or more single people find love on their sites. Now, most of us think “Wow! Maybe that percentage includes me!”
And with our hearts wide open to all the wonderful possibilities of love, we set up our profiles, take our very best pictures, and truly believe anything is possible.
Then you anxiously await the first round of messages to come pouring in. Once they do and you go through them you find one in every ten to be exciting. You talk to them and you get that “Butterfly Effect” in your stomach and you stay up later than usual on the computer or maybe you even exchange phone numbers.
The next step is you start to feel like “This could be the One” you will find yourself falling in love and then just as fast as it starts it is over.
Why is this? Well from the way I see it, the problem is you. That’s right. You! Harsh as it may sound, I mean it in a loving way. First of all we make ourselves venerable to heartbreak. We put such high expectations on ourselves and other people. Don’t get me wrong I still want to believe that everyone deserves their own fairytale but what they forget to teach you is that you make your own fairytales and it is usually not the way you picture it.
Most people in a relationship have “settled” outside of what they really want because of the fear of being alone. Doesn’t mean you are not happy just means you have made it work for you.
Online dating is an easy way for you to be yourself personality-wise almost everything else money, job, lifestyle etc.. are what you wish them to be. And we all know how to take our “Best Pictures” so you have already started your “New Relationship with a lie!” Then once the truth is reveled the relationship is over as fast as it began.
Now your left with another sore taste in your mouth and a little crack in your heart. So my friends I say unto you, if you most test the waters of online dating do it with the notion that it is just for fun.
Don’t take things so seriously and make sure you talk to someone for a while in a REALconversation. Pay close attention to the answers they give because that way its easier to smell your rat! And above all things Guard your hearts with all you have because real love is out there and will be best found when your not looking for it.